Here Is The True Psychology Behind Rough Sex
Did you think that you can only the characters of 50 Shades of Grey enjoy rough sex? Well, you should think twice!
We have been brought up thinking that having sex is about making love so it should be gentle, romantic and sweet. That’s why many of us get dumbfounded with the idea of a rough, adventurous sex that the movie 50 Shades of Grey has been trying to introduce to us. But did you know that there are plenty of people who enjoy this unconventional way of making love? That’s just absurd, right?
After all, why would people love to get their hair pulled, their asses spanked and being choked? And why would men want to do that to their women? Well, let’s find out! Here is the true psychology behind rough sex.
The Logic Behind Submission
In this age when females have worked hard to gain equality, isn’t submission during sex a step back to everything they have been fighting for?
Surely, many people will think of it that way. But according to one psychologist, enjoying submissive sex or the art of BDSM sex doesn’t mean that you are sexist, or you are mentally damaged. Enjoying this type of sex only means one thing—these simple acts turn them on.
No matter how modern we can get, we can’t help but go back to our primal roots, and these roots significantly influence our sexual desires and turn us on. And rough sex just shows that some one wants you really bad and he can’t stop himself from having sex with you that he uses force to get you into bed. To be able to feel that power and desire physically is certainly an arousing situation for most women.
Walking Down Memory Lane
Some people use rough sex to release the repressed feelings that they have had during the early childhood years. Most psychologists believe that people’s penchant for rough sex goes way back—from their childhood.
For example, women who grew up with a dad who is always preoccupied with business and rarely pay attention to them may seek that much-needed attention from their sexual partners. And she would act out on her anger to her dad on her partner instead, leading to rough sex.
On the other hand, men who grew up with an unloving, cold mother is most likely to take out their frustrations on their girlfriends, especially in bed.
Freedom of Expression
As mentioned above, it can be difficult for men and women to freely express their emotions and dominant tendencies at this time when sexism is being frowned upon the most. That’s why many of these people with dominant and submissive tendencies would just simply release their frustrations privately—in the bedroom.
Whether we agree with it or not, sex is one way to release and express our emotions. It cannot be just happy or loving feelings but also sad feelings and frustrations as well.
With these simple facts and logic, maybe we have gained a little more insight into rough sex and the people who enjoy doing it.
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